What makes something kinky? What
one person finds odd, another will do without thinking twice. Kinkiness,
like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. Some of the stuff
listed here will gross some of you out (some of it squicks me..),
others will page through it thinking "What does he mean,
'kinky'? I do this all the time..."
There's also a big difference between
having a kink and having a fetish. A kink is an activity or accessory
that you enjoy, while a fetish is one without which you can't
get any pleasure.
I don't know of all that many multiple-partner
slash stories (except for the "Party at Vachon's" series
and some C/P/K), but there's a ton of gay erotica and porn devoted
to the subject.
The act of being pierced can be erotic
in and of itself, and having the jewelry to play with can add
some wonderful spice. Nipples, navels, noses, balls, cockhead,
and perineum are only a few of the places people put shiny bits
of metal.
The Puncture
Gallery is a great place to find out more about body art
and piercings.
These three things are closely related.
Sex isn't always about emotion for men. Biologically we're programmed
to try to spread our seed as widely as we can, to maximize our
potential for reproduction. Culturally this manifests in the
difference between a "slut" and a "stud".
When a woman is promiscuous, she's a slut. When a guy does it,
he's a stud (though calling a gay guy a slut or tramp is a compliment).
(April, 2005 - Somebody recently took offence at this previous paragraph. Just to make
things perfectly clear to those of you who might not have understood - I am not calling promiscuous women sluts.
I am pointing out the fact that our culture labels them such. Like anyone else with a lick of sense,
I think it's stupid, and it's clearly a double standard. But then, you already knew that, didn't you?) This is a difficult subject, even among
gay men. There are guys who intensely disapprove of the practice,
arguing that it promotes unsafe sex and is emotionally unfullfilling.
Others point out that the lack of emotional entanglements is
the major attraction of anonymous encounters, and that sex clubs
are excellent venues for safe sex education, there being the
opportunity for immediate hands-on practice.
I tend to agree with the second group.
At sex clubs there are no games, no head trips, no 'getting to
know him', no emotional garbage, and less attitude. Just plain
sex. Sometimes all you really want is some cock.
p u m p i n g
As long as men have been around, they've been
trying ways to make their dicks bigger. From hanging weights,
to magical potions, to high-tech vacuum pumps. An acrylic tube
attached to a small pump is placed over the penis, and the air
evacuated. This draws more blood into the organ, which increases
the size. Lots of claims have been made about this method, and
a few of them may even be true, but I'd be *real* reluctant to
try it. Supposedly it also increases sensitivity and intensity
of the orgasm. See the Vacuum
Pumpers Site for more.
"Two's company, three's a crowd".
Not always. This is something that most guys want to try, and
that many couples get into after being married a while. The possibilities
range from committed and stable threesomes (a menage, or triad)
to major group orgies where you're not even sure whose dick is
inside you. There's a whole newsgroup devoted to polyamory ("loving
many"), alt.polyamory
From a purely sexual perspective (and that
is what this site is supposed to be about, isn't it?), the logistics
of multiple partners can be tricky at times. Probably the most
common configuration is two-on-one, where one guy gets it from
both ends. This is an incredible experience, being surrounded
and satisfied both ways.
Also common is two (or more) sharing a
third, taking turns. With a little luck this can go on all night...
(btw, if anyone recognizes what movie this pic is from, let me
know...)
Which leads us to larger groups, and gangbangs.
A gangbang is where one guy acts as bottom for a number of others,
servicing them with his mouth and ass. I remember a scene in
a porno flick (but have no idea what the title is) where one
guy was bent over sucking cock, while behind him stretched a
line of men waiting their turn with his ass. I counted a total
of 23 (yes, twenty-three) different men fucking him in that one
scene. This is a little misleading, as in the Real World bottoms
usually outnumber tops, and one guy getting that many is just
plain greedy.
One guy can also play sandwich filling.
This takes a little concentration and a sense of rhythm.. but
can be worth the extra effort.
p i e r c i n g
"Spare the rod and spoil the child."
Some guys get off on the feeling of a good sound spanking.
g l o r y h o l e s
Anonymous sex isn't everyone's cup of tea.
But for those who are into it, it can be an incredible experience.
Sex without all the bullshit, no talking, no strings, no emotional
garbage, just pure sex. Glory holes are holes in walls, sometimes
in public bathrooms (though I've never actually seen one in a
public building) or in sex clubs. You stick your cock through,
and someone sucks it. No faces, no names.. just a blow job.
George Michael knows all about this subject.
Some people get off on the tang of danger in public or semi-public
sex. Rest stops, parks, bus stations. The Aussies call them "beats",
the Brits "tearooms", whatever the name, they are places
all over the world where men gather to have sex. They spring
up organically, no one plans them. Usually found in neighborhoods
with high concentrations of gay men, but also in areas where
there are no gay bars or other places where we can gather. These
aren't just places to get your rocks off, for some men in isolated
communities or who are deeply closeted, these may be the only
contact they have with other gays.
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