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Feedback Faux Pas
(how to piss off a writer with your feedback)
Feedback is what a lot of authors thrive on, and it's just as important as the writing itself. It keeps then informed
as to how their public is enjoying their work and helps them stay optimistic and enthusiastic about their craft.
Lately, feedback has become a double-edged sword for myself and other writers. I'm fairly new to the area of 'N
Sync slash, having only been in this 'business' for about seven or eight months, but I do receive my share of
well-written and comprehensive feedback. But, for every well-written and comprehensive email that I get, there's
always one of the following that makes me cringe:
- The one-liners: "OMG I love [insert story title here] so much! Awesome!" I wanna punch my monitor when
I'm reported to have ten new emails and seven of them resemble the example given. Okay, so you loved [insert
story title here]. Now tell me why! It's great to let an author know that you enjoy their work and want more of it,
but it's even better to let an author know what you liked about it, its strengths and weaknesses, etc. It helps
writers get better at what they do. And if I see the use of "OMG" one more time...
- The teenie-back: "OMG I loved [insert story title here] it was soooo funny and sweet can you imagine [insert
pairing here] actually doing stuff like that hahahaha ne way I just wanted to tell you that you ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and you should write something about me and justin hahaha just kidding <3 jenni" Jesus Christ. Do I have to
even point out why this type of feedback irritates most writers? Unless an author wrote the story in that
format (without punctuation or capital letters), then the odds are that the email recipient has no idea of what the
hell you're talking about. In the land of boyband slash, there are plenty of underage kids floating around and
reading the stuff, and many of them are the ones sending this horrible feedback. I'm not going to say that only
pre-pubescent teenyboppers are guilty of this kind of feedback because I've received this muck from people
claiming to be in their thirties. In America, all children are required to have some sort of formal education, so
people, please. Let it show.
- The referrals: "Hey my name is [insert cheesy online alias here] and your work is really good. I was just
wondering something, though. Have you read any of my stuff? If so, could you please please please go check out
my homepage and tell me how you like it? My friend [insert cheesy online alias here] has a site too and she wants
to know if you'll look at it too. I added your link on my site, so I think you should link mine too! Thanks!" I'm
sure that no author minds recommendations or referrals for the most part, but asking a stranger to read everything
on your site and critique it is overstepping certain boundaries, I think. Who says that someone just wants to
dissect a stranger's fiction, and who says that said fiction will keep the other person's interest long enough? Also,
when I'm online reading slash, it's something that's done for fun's sake. I just sit back and relax and read a story
that interests me. For someone to think that you actually want to go to their site and read everything there, then
send them a 50K email that workshops the entire site, I think that's pretty egotistical and rather rude. If your
stuff is actually that good, then others will find it and it will be read. Trust me.
- The suggestors: "Hey, you know what you should write? A story where Justin and Lance visit Willie Wonka's
Chocolate Factory and drink up the chocolate river and eat all of the candy and stuff. That would be cool!" - or
even worse - "Hey, why don't you write any [insert pairing you hate]. You should write a [insert pairing you
hate] story. I think that would rock!" - and this one really chaps my ass - "Hey, I really love 'Still On Your
Side' by BBMak. I think it would make a great story for you to write! You should do it!" This sort of feedback
goes along the same lines of "the referrals." Just like I hate being told what to read, I hate being told what to write.
I'm sure that other authors feel the same way. Writing should be something spontaneous and natural, not forced.
Writing shouldn't feel like a job, but an enjoyable hobby. Most writers don't and won't take requests for this
reason. When you force a story it can often come out half-assed and weak, and no writer wants that.
- The beggars: "Hey when are you gonna update [insert unfinished series title here]. I'm like soooo addicted to
that story. Please please please update it!" Hmph. I've been getting these a lot lately in reference to an unfinished
story of my own, and I'll say this. The author probably wants that story updated just as much as you do, but if
they're suffering of writer's block or some other uncontrollable circumstance, then they've probably got a little
notice up on their website about it. Don't get me wrong; I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with asking
about an incomplete series, but the begging is not necessary. Especially when there's probably information
pertaining to the story's completion somewhere in the author's notes or on their site.
- The stalkers: "OMG I loooooooove your writing SO much! You're just so funny and smart and you're such a
bitch but in a good way! I love you love you love you and your fiction is the best thing on the net! I linked your site
on my webpage and I bookmarked you too! I can't wait to see more writing from you! I love you! You rock! Be
my wife! Hahaha, just kidding!" (note: this email would be received about twice a week from the same person.)
Stalker emails are ones where flattery crosses over into the realm of obsession, and that can be rather scary. I joke
with other writers about being their stalkers sometimes, and it's a funny thing for us, but when you receive the
aforementioned email twice a week from a stranger, that shit just ain't cute.
Personally, I've made it a rule to reply to any and all feedback that I receive, no matter what the content. Yet
when I receive email such as the stuff that I've given examples of, it makes it so hard to respond in a civil and kind
manner. I don't know how to respond to stuff like that without letting my bitchiness loose, so usually I just opt
for a one-liner response myself: "Hey [insert cheesy online alias here]! Thanks for the feedback! Always
appreciated!" If you've ever gotten that kind of email from myself or another writer, then it's possible that you're
guilty of sending either one-liner, teenie-back, referral, suggestor, beggar, or stalker feedback. Every writer loves
feedback, but when their public's not trying, it makes the author want to stop trying themselves.
- Bohemia (the_fiercest@hotmail.com)
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